Being a Rainbow Baby

I never really knew what a rainbow baby was until about a year ago. For those of you who don’t know, a “rainbow baby” is a term used to describe a baby born shortly after the loss of a baby due to miscarriage, stillbirth, or death during infancy. I became a rainbow baby on March…

When Life Comes At You Fast

Sometimes life comes at you fast. This can be especially startling if you plan every single second of your life out, you love plans and being prepared, and your name is Mary Carter. If this is the case, and life comes at you fast, everything might seem like it’s falling down around you and like…

On Being Twenty in 2017- a rant piece

We can do nothing about the outside happenings- things that go on outside of our sphere of influence. We can do something about how we react to them. We can change how much energy we put into the things that won’t change no matter what- if we take that energy and put it into creating a better life, how much greater would our day be?

Twenty and Broke and Tired

I know now that in order to be thirty and flirty and thriving, I must first be twenty and broke and tired.

The Little Things

As you snuggle in your bed in your new Christmas jammies, don’t forget to thank the universe for letting all of the pieces how they have fallen. (Or God, or your gods, or whoever/whatever you believe in) Way too many times, we forget and get caught up in the every day hustle and bustle of…

An Apology Letter to my Hair

Dear Hair, I love you, for what you are. We’ve had a rough relationship, and I know that I haven’t always been appreciative of you, but the truth is, we go together perfectly and I’m so grateful of you.  I’m sorry I didn’t know how to deal with you in middle school so I relaxed…

The New American Dream

If we never speak up and say what we need to say to the people who can do something about it, we will never see the change we deserve.

A Modern Day Civil War- A Thought Piece

Tonight I had the privilege of attending a guest lecture by the Pulitzer Prize winning journalist Stephen Henderson. In the lecture, Henderson, a Detroit native, discussed being black in America and the idea of American narratives playing a part in the unrest we see on the news every week. What sparked my interest, however, was…

An Open Letter to the Emotionally Abusive Boy

Hi, We haven’t spoken in awhile, and I’m okay with that. There was a point in my life once where that would have killed me; the thought of being away from you or with anyone else but you was physically painful. We used to talk every day, all day long. About the past, about the…

6 July 2016- Every House Has a Past

I expect this post to get far fewer views than my last posts, and that is okay with me. This is politics, this is a no-no for public conversation.  This is uncomfortable.  But this is real life, this is what real people are going through in their real lives. This is what real mothers and…